Keeping it all in - Silent Suffering - Shame Print
Written by JB   
Hi Paul,
Thank you for your words of wisdom and your kindness.

I'm so glad that your organization and this website exist. They are definitely steps in the right direction.
I think that one of the hardest parts of trying to cope with mental illness and the issues that surround it is the sense of isolation - the feeling like no one in the world could possibly understand what you are going through or feeling. This can't be understated. It's a sense of silent suffering and at times shame that weighs you down and adds to the pain of the situation. When I think back to being a kid, that is the one thing that causes the most pain -- where was everyone? why didn't anyone explain anything to me or offer any support? That conspiracy of silence is what trained me to keep it all in and take it all on my own shoulders

So I am comforted by the fact that children can now find information out there and an organization like yours online. It may be a baby step, but I know it will make a tremendous difference for those who just want someone to talk to, listen, understand or comfort them.

I really wanted to express that. I also wanted to share information on two books that have helped me a lot recently. The first is "The Burden of Sympathy - How Families Cope with Mental Illness" by David A. Karp. I would HIGHLY recommend this book. It made me laugh, cry and never want to put it down. The second book (which I am still reading) is called "When Someone You Love Has a Mental Illness" by Rebecca Woolis. It offers both insight and amazingly practical advice on how best to deal with our loved ones who are ill (including advice on how to keep your own life in balance.). After 25 years of care-giving I am still finding it to be very informative, so I'd say anyone can benefit from it.

If you haven't already heard of them I think you'll really enjoy them and people in your organization will benefit from having them available.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond, and please keep up the good work!